Help Me Get My Ex Boyfriend Back

Help me get my ex boyfriend back is one of the heartfelt cries I hear so often and its astonishing how hard some women try and fail in this task. There are however some simple things to consider before during and after you start this process.

Many women try and fail in getting their boyfriends back. I often hear their heartfelt cries and it is astonishing to see how much they try but fail in this task. However there some simple tips to consider before, during and after you start to ‘ get your ex boyfriend back’ process.

Firstly why do you want to get your ex boyfriend back ?

Is it because you are lonely? If so, just don’t go there. It’s not a good enough reason for wanting to get back together. There is only one reason that is good enough and that is, you love him. Try and disentangle your reasons and motives before you proceed.

Secondly why did you split in the first place?

Did one of you cheat? Was it you? If it was and you are asking how do I get my ex boyfriend back, you have to start looking pretty close to home. If you cheated and now want to get back together, you will need a pretty extraordinary game plan. Cheating is probably the single most damaging thing you can do to a relationship and you will have to be prepared to roll your sleeves up and engage on some pretty hard work to be able to get your ex boyfriend  back together.

If he cheated on you, ask yourself the question, why. Why did he cheat and why do I want him back ?

Look, if you still seriously want to get your ex boyfriend back continue with me:

Anyway if you have thought long and hard about the reasons and your motives are for getting back together, there are a few steps you can take to help you along the way.

Accept it will not happen overnight and if it does, it probably won’t last.

Do not cling or chase. You will hear this time and again and it’s hard I know, but chasing and browbeating just aren’t going to work.

Avoid blame. Even if you think it’s all his fault, it isn’t and telling him so, well it’s not going to change anything.

Make him miss you. This goes hand in hand with do not chase or cling. If he thinks he can just snap his fingers and get you back, he won’t do it. If he thinks you are just there waiting for him, he will keep you on the backburner while he considers his options. It is human nature, we all want what we can’t have, don’t we? Keep that in mind and keep your distance.

Distract yourself. It is too easy to mope around feeling sorry for yourself. I know, I’ve done it too, but it really doesn’t help you and if your question is how to get your ex boyfriend back , one of the answers is try and get on with your life, there is nothing more attractive than a girl or woman who is interested and interesting, cry babies don’t get anywhere and whilst friends can be sympathetic to a point, they will soon get bored if it’s the same old record.

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