Other Women

The Other Woman Isn’t Necessarily an Obstacle

If your ex boyfriend is like mine was, he’s already jumped excitedly back into the dating world. I was crushed when I learned that my ex boyfriend had started seeing a new girl. My obsession with the break up and with him quickly turned into an obsession that focused on her. I scoured every site I could think of online to dig up anything I could on her. The truth was that she seemed lovely, which actually hurt even more.

I’m here to tell you that you shouldn’t see his new relationship as something you need to destroy in order to  get your ex boyfriend back . Doing that will actually backfire and cause him to pull away even more.

The honest reality is that he finds this new woman interesting enough to pursue something with her. Obviously that stings you in a very deep and profound way. But you must remember that many people, particularly men, search out a new romantic partner soon after their break up strictly because they want to drown all those lingering thoughts they have of their ex girlfriend. Your ex boyfriend may actually be using his new girlfriend to try and forget you.

The best advice you can follow when your ex does start dating again is to be cordial and kind to both him and her. If you happen to run into them, focus your attention on her and be friendly. Ask her questions about her work, compliment her and smile, always, always, smile.

If you can show your ex boyfriend that his new relationship doesn’t intimidate or threaten you at all, you’ll be one step closer to get your ex boyfriend back.

Never lose sight of the fact that most rebound relationships fall apart very quickly.

Even if he is dating someone else, there are ways to get him to rethink his break up with you. You can learn more about that  here. I will continue to explain you how to get your ex boyfriend back  soon.