So, your relationship with your one and only has ended. You
feel lost, upset, confused. Why he dose this? Does he still love you? So much
is going through your mind, but what you really want to know is how to get your
ex boyfriend back . Learn ways and methods to do this below.
Is He Worth It?
Before you try to get
your ex boyfriend back, you need to figure out whether it really is what
you want. Getting him back won’t be an easy task, is he worth fighting for? Or
can you make it as a single woman?
No Contact
The first step is to keep your distance from him, which
includes cutting all ties and contact. No matter how much you want to call him,
text him or email him, you have to resist the urge.
By behaving as though you are okay with the break up and not
communicating with him, he will be curious as to why you are not chasing him
and begging for him to take you back. Men naturally want to pursue women, they
want what they can’t have, so in making yourself unavailable to him, you have
also made yourself much more attractive to him.
If it is hard to cut of contact completely, for example,
if you work with him or you have children together, you will have to limit the
contact as much as possible. Only talk to him when it is absolutely necessary
and stay cool, calm and collected.
Once you have had no contact with your boyfriend for at
least one month, it is then time to communicate again, to rebuild and repair
your relationship.
Work On Yourself/Socialise
Do not get sucked in to the world of depression after the
break up. Don’t mope around in your pyjamas at home feeling sorry for yourself.
If you really want to get your ex boyfriend back, you need
to keep positive and stay smiling.
Go out there and pamper yourself. Treat yourself to some
new clothes and a new hairstyle. Make some effort with your appearance.
Keep your mind off the break up and build your confidence
by socialising with friends and family.
It is in human nature to gravitate towards happy friendly
people who have fun, you need to show your ex you are this person. Who wants to
hang around sad, depressed people?
When you do run into your ex boyfriend and he sees this
beautiful, confident, fun girl, he will remember why he loved you in the first
place and regret breaking up with you.
Learn From Your Mistakes
The break up has happened now, there is nothing you can do
about it except learn from your mistakes to get
your ex boyfriend back.
Figure out what went wrong in the relationship and fix
any issues. Show your ex boyfriend that you know where you went wrong, you
understand that he didn’t like certain ways that you behaved, or things that
you did.
Without solving any problems, if you do get back
together, you will find that they recur and cause friction between the two of
you again. Save yourself hurt and heartache now, but discussing issues with
your ex and finding ways to deal with them.
Remind Him Why He Fell In
Love With You
Take yourself back to when the pair of you were first
dating and you behaved like a couple of teenagers and then look at the
relationship at the end. What has changed? Are you different?
Try to remember the old you. Were you more fun to be
around, a real party animal? But now, you are boring, in bed by 8pm? Bring back
your old ways, the ways about you that your ex boyfriend fell in love with you
for.
Support Him
Even though you may not be a couple anymore, if you
remain good friends, you should still support him with his dreams and passion.
However, limit the amount of support you show him. He
will soon realise how much support you gave him when you were together. This
will make him appreciate you more. It is always encouraging when the one you
love supports you.
Reminisce
This is a very strong
tool when learning how to get your ex boyfriend back.
As mentioned earlier, people like to feel happy. By reminding your ex of some
of the good times you shared, he will realise that the relationship was not
actually that bad and that he had just let small, solvable issues get in the
way.
Try to talk about these memories in appropriate
situations. Do not just bring them up randomly in the middle of a conversation
unless it is relevant. You don’t want to seem like you are forcing him to
remember these times.
Good Luck
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