The first
thoughts of a break up are initiated from either you, your partner or both or
you two wanting to escape any situation which any one or both of you are faced
with either individually or as a couple. For instance masses of couples have
broken up over family financial crises, having to raise unique kids, having to
deal with a problem child from in laws living under the same roof. Moreover,
many situation might seem real simple to the bystander outside the relationship
the social pressures sometimes are extremely difficult to handle.
I classify all
relationships going through such phase as “relationships of stress”.
For any women in
a relationship of stress, the worst problem is that, men who are more
introverted take a long time before expressing the issue. Many a times the
final call from your partner might have come from a problem or issue that has
stayed there for years and by the time the cat is out of the bag it’s already
done enough damage. Secondly, since women are by nature more expressive and tend
to ventilate any excess emotional baggage as soon as they can while men tend to
put up the happy face of a brave persona and keep things inside. Many of us
don’t even realize how our recurrent expectation of a small thing is disrupting
the life of our partner because he has less time and fewer resources than we
initially expected. Being nature’s vulnerable creatures we tend (of course
unknowingly) abuse the female advantage while being the cause of significant
emotional issue for our partners.
If you are faced
with such a vicious circle with one problem rippling from the other you are in
a classical “relationship of stress”. Typically, chronic cases of stressful
relationships require clinical therapy and ancillary therapeutic relief
techniques. However in addition to clinical interventions, there is a large
number of relationship management techniques that can help a woman overcome
this difficult phase. It is quite possible that your ex-boyfriend or fiancé
distanced himself to avoid stress.
The first step
towards repairing your relationship of stress should be to maintain at least
status quo in all aspects of the relationship and respect the opinion of your
partner. Of course, there is no way you can get over years or months of
sadness, dissatisfaction and gloom in a matter of few seconds. Your first
concern should be to take immediate steps to stop implicating the emotional
pain that you have been causing with an unreasonable or unfair expectation.
Secondly and
more importantly, learn to respond wisely to all what he is venting onto you.
It might be that while trying to get the burden off his shoulders he starts to
blame every pinch of a needle on you. There is no harm in listening to what he
says, but be on guard to blame yourself for things you have not done or you are
not responsible for. Gauge every accusation wisely and weigh your part of the
blame reasonably before making any change in your relationship.
If you think
that your relationship is being jeopardized due to some long overdue
unexpressed sentiments you can get your
ex -boyfriend back by intelligent stress management. It is very important
that you keep an eye on the stress level within the dynamics of the
relationship, listen to his small talk learn to read between lines and
differentiate between true and false claims. If you can do this much it would
be quite easy to learn how to get
your ex-boyfriend back in your life in no time. Follow us to read more
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