How Giving Him His Due Space

I was merely in a relationship for two years. John, the love of my life, decided to part ways with me, because he suddenly felt the urge to invest more time in career building. I was only 20 at that time. Both he and I belonged to the middle class and had moved to the city for building us our dream world. I was training as a dancer while he was attending university. As we knew each other, and also the families, we decided to stay at reachable distance.

The first few months it was difficult to at least make both ends meet. It was a long time before we could afford food from the nearby bakery and so we resorted to self help amateur cook books. I remember using mayonnaise for hair-jell when I went to my 5^th audition. It was our 6^th month in the city and I had no money left. I had spent everything I brought from home; he offered his help instantly when he came to know of the matter. However I was lucky enough to save face because my part time job paid weekly; still I barely managed well without excess cash in pocket.

With the passage of time our friendship progressed. By the time we started dating we also started making little money so it was good feeling to spend it and also to spend time together. Every Saturday night we would sneak in the bear bar at night, go to the movies and watch rugby together. It was fun all in all!

The flip side of it was that we were constantly loosing track of our busy schedules. Only had an off on Thursdays and John had to bunk his class for being with me. Nothing could make up for that loss at any case.

John was studying on a scholarship and the worst of realities hit us when he lost his scholarship due to poor grades. This was breakeven for him; he decided to call it quits and let it be for a while. I have to make it back to the scholarship award list at least”, he said. I understood his concern but what he said after this was quite a bit of a shock for me. He said he felt pressured to keep me happy and due to that he was facing problem saying no to my demands.

The whole issue opened my eyes up and I realized how self absorbed had I been all that time, his was quite a valid reason. I decided to give him his due space instead of reading every free online tutorial on how to get your ex boyfriend back and worrying dead sick and over how I can get my ex boyfriend back, now. Throughout that time I used some carefully crafted custom messages to get him to respond to me, and he actually did call. John’s breaking up was over as soon as he made it to the scholarship award list. Since we never had any major issues except for this we moved back together after only a few months of separation.