Get Your Boyfriend Back Without Getting Back At Him

One often ignored aspect of a woman or a girl’s fight to get back with her ex is that she fails to identify the true source of motivation for her actions. Mostly the break up call from the man of her dreams is a heart wrenching experience and instinctively some of us do take it as a challenge to our womanhood. This is why as an equal and opposite reaction we start to fight back to bounce back. Is it your ego that’s pushing you to keep trying for the fruit that is now forbidden or is it an innate desire to see him begging to you for taking him back? If any of these two are the reason, you are trying to learn, how to get your ex boyfriend back, then you need to think before you leap.

There is no harm in rethinking the motif behind your actions; no need to go for any sudden perplexed reactions that are not well thought out. Such drastic moves would cause you either to re-enter the same old unhappy vicious circle of being in love with the wrong guy, or it would add to your chances of failure at gaining his love again. This is for few days post break up one must try to overcome the sadness and keep a check on one’s emotions. In this time work on yourself.

More importantly, sometimes we want things that may not be the best for us. Temporary break ups give us a golden opportunity to assess the value of the relationship within the framework of our life. Try to filter out your priorities against your wishes and put the relationship in the perspective of your “life as it is” to see if it is a workable relationship.

Lastly, do not give into temptation of hurrying back into the phase of the relationship. Especially, if the separation is sudden and unprecedented. The best part about human relationships is that these are extraordinarily flexible and adaptable. You can move into the safer friend’s zone instead of keeping the war zone open on the territory of love and attraction. This way the sudden emptiness will not hit you, and you will have a good deal of time to mend the hurt caused by words said, and acts have done in anger. This goes for both partners in the relationship.

There is quite a high chance that if you follow few carefully devised email/texting tactics you will succeed at getting a response out of a brick wall but what is the use of being with a brick wall?

So think before you speak and act in this direction. There is no better way how to get your ex boyfriend back than defining the motives and objective of your actions, thinking about probable outcomes and being mentally prepared for results. See within your soul, meditate, keep a journal, you talk to your mom or your godmother ….. In short do whatever it takes for you to decide if you truly want this guy back for the right reasons or is it just an emotional glitch!.... Good Luck